Thursday 27 February 2014

Dear Paris: 6 Months

Dear Paris:

I fell into your arms six months ago tomorrow.

Bleary eyed, wildly dazed and confused from an early morning train I was brought to tears by you.
You were stunning in your grandeur, your lips stained multicoloured with flowers and your skin spread with wide rivers and ornate bridges covered in locks declaring love and it made me believe in the elusive thing, and maybe I was falling in love with you.

You see, Paris, we'd been having a long distance relationship for months before then, and your picture was the one I turned to in times of frustration and desparation, in times of needing to know there was something more out there. And there was.

During our summer of wine drenched picnics in front of the Eiffel Tower and cheese and bread in Luxembourg Gardens, of bursting sunshine and throngs of visitors to our home, in early September nights I needed only you to keep me warm, I was enthralled by you. I still am, Paris.

The autumn of our love affair found me in turbulence, and I doubted you and myself and why I chose to come all this way to chase you down in the first place. I doubted you, Paris, and for that I am sorry. But stripped of everything I once knew, standing barren with only you, I fell for your flaws. It was in November and early December that your underbelly was exposed, during the days fogged with misty rain and the nights barely discernible from their counterparts. It was when you failed to be my source of heat that I found beauty in your grey. I found myself staring up at your sky today and wondering how such an inherently monotonous colour could be made so arresting, so stunning. You wear grey over slate blue and cream so well, Paris.

We took a break over Christmas. I think it was necessary.

With the new year I returned to you confident in myself, no longer requiring your approval, no longer placing unattainable expectations on you to uphold my childhood misconceptions. I also discussed a more open relationship with you, and although you will always be my first love, I discovered Amsterdam; breathtaking in its prettiness, Berlin; profound in a way that juxtaposed your superficiality (no offence), and Budapest; who some call your eastern sister, but I would argue she was an entirely different being, different from anything I had ever explored, almost fictional in her beauty. But I came back to you renewed, rejeuvenated. I promised myself I would appreciate you and discover you anew as I had the other three. And it's hard, because over the past six months our relationship has grown comfortable, routine. I need to feel scared sometimes.

Paris, I know our relationship has an expiration date, and that date is a mere four months away. But I look forward to our spring and our second summer, I look forward to discovering your hidden places left covered.

All in all, yours has been the most dynamic and terrifying, the most rewarding relationship I have ever had. People ask me how I'm liking you. There is no easy answer to that, but I do hope this helps to explain.

I love you, Paris.
And I hope you like me too.

Yours,
Coral
Xx

Thursday 20 February 2014

Berlin Day 1: History, Injustices, and General Overwhelming Emotions

This past Saturday I flew out to Berlin Shoenefeld Flughafen (that's german for airport if you didn't know, fun fact) and I must say that it has to be one of the most surreal and emotional experiences of my life thus far. Which isn't very long compared to the wrinkled, charactered German seniors I passed on the street who had lived through two earth-shattering wars and a complete and devastating divide of their nation, but still. It was a time.

The trip was a smooth one, my hostel (Heart of Gold) was very easy to find, near the well-served train station Friedrichstrasse (I hope you appreciate the fact that I have to look up all these outlandish spellings), which I later found out was the last stop on the major east-west train that was shut off here during the cold war, which made it a final goodbye spot and a very emotional landmark.

The hostel was Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy themed which was tres cool. Although they could have gone more all-out. I shared my dorm with three friendly Spanish travelers for the first night and the second night I **praise the lord** had the room to myself. For the great price of nine euro fifty.

After dropping my bags at the hostel, I hit the town running. Quite literally. For a couple of reasons: A) I couldn't afford metro tickets because I had a total budget of under 150 euros, and B) I have an incessant and insatiable need to see. everything. possible. So walking it was. Which quickly translated to me abandoning my fashionable Parisian vintage leather boots in favour of my wonderful, dirt-covered New Balance runners. Because blisters.

So on that first day, after briefly stopping at an awesome flea market, I found Unter Den Linden, which is the main glitzy avenue of Berlin, translating to "under the linden trees". The avenue stretches roughly from the Brandenburg Gate to Alexanderplatz, to which I walked.









On the way to Alexanderplatz (a huge east-side metropolitan shopping center-esque area), I passed the Neue Wache, a very emotional sculpture of a mother holding her dead son, a tribute to the first, and later the second and cold wars that devastated Germany.


Following this memorial I passed the Berliner Dom, a huge cathedral in the museum square off the avenue. It was stunning. I then saw the TV Tower and Alexanderplatz itself, stopping for a dunkin' doughnut and an apple turnover. And water.








On the way back I found the Spree Side Gallery, which is a spin-off of the East Side Gallery I would find the next day. The Spree Side Gallery is an exhibition of 20th century photographs along the side of the Spree river that runs through Berlin. The photos were breathtaking, and conveyed people's lives around the world during different crucial, historical points in the hundred years. It was interesting to see how the conflicts and resolutions affected the lives of people from different countries and different cultures.





Following my excursion to Alexanderplatz, I headed west towards the Brandenburg Gate, which I had been longing to see. This gate marked the old entrance into the German capital and was the site of so many turning points in the country's history, including when President Ronald Reagan pleaded with the leader of the Soviet Union, Mikhail Gorbachev, to "tear down this wall". I had basically plunged headfirst into my History 12 textbook (thanks for the inspiration, Mr. Torres).



After passing through the gate, I dabbled in the most beautiful park (or should I say small and well-organized forest) I have ever laid eyes on. Yes, it beats Luxembourg Gardens out of the park (heh pun not intended). This beautiful and unearthly creation goes by the name of Tiergarten and stretches from the gate to just past the towering, golden victory column to the west. Just to my left after exiting the gate was the Holocaust Memorial, a very simple and extremely powerful representation of the murdered jews during the holocaust. The memorial consisted of stone slabs of varying heights over rolling terrain, which sometimes dipped so far below the rising towers of concrete that one couldn't see their surroundings and felt utterly trapped in a labyrinth of black.




After returning to the hostel to check in and rest my aching limbs and bruised feet, I ventured towards Potsdamerplatz, a more western version of its Alexander counterpart. I was just casually strolling towards the vibrant square when I happened upon another memorial, this one outside the Federal Ministry of Finance's building, and dedicated to the East Berlin Uprisings of 17 June 1953. I will not go into detail about these uprisings as you, dear reader, are in the possession of Google and there is already far too much writing in this post, but it was around this time, as I read of the violence and slaughter, the desperate and seemingly futile attempts at achieving freedom, as I looked around me at the Berlin night, that I realized the realness of it all. The recency of it all. It is all well and good to study dates and statistics in a textbook, to write emotional essays and correctly bubble test sheets, but it is an entirely different experience to be there. There, in that small and tangible square outside a very real building, on the surface of which is painted a remembrance mural. It is an entirely different experience to feel so close to something which feels so far away, a trick of the mind, a bend of time courtesy of oceans and borders and governments distancing us from them. I looked at the senior citizens of Berlin differently after this, wondering what their eyes had seen and what their weathered skin had felt.



Having reached Potsdamerplatz, I stumbled upon a thing that would later influence how I viewed Berlin and its many tributes to its array of injustices and inequalities. The "Rainbow Flame Berlin" was a white booth sheltering a blazing flame surrounded by pride flags blowing gently in the early evening wind, around which volunteers were handing out flyers. The side of the tent read: "When did you decide to become heterosexual?" It was such a blatant question, staring out at the citizens and tourists who passed by, either glancing up and brushing it off or stopping, as I did, to read about its mission: to battle homophobia and anti-gay legislation in Russia during the Sochi Winter Olympics. It was then that I realized that there will always be an injustice to battle, an oppression to fight, whether it be misogyny or abortion-banning or laws that ban love. And I was sad, sad that it was obvious how little we had learned from the past, and yet hopeful. Because here was this fire, and here were these people in the freezing night pleading with others to join us in our fight for equality, as so many victims of oppression had fought on these same streets. And there was a great hope in that. A hope that one day this might fade to the removed, almost unbelievable veil that had shrouded the civil rights movement and the persons case and the holocaust and the wall and all the protests and uprisings and the dictators and tyrants. I hope that one day we will look back on ourselves, shaking our heads at our blindness to the obvious answer that love isn't propaganda or a thing that can be banned. As Mr. Torres would say, hindsight is 20/20. I just hope that day comes soon.




After sipping a beer and finding some salvaged pieces of wall on the way back to the hostel, I slept soundly and woke at 7:30 for Day Two.

(and this is where you read the next post.)

Love always,
Coral




Tuesday 11 February 2014

The Happy List: February

Because positivity.

1. The first sip of tea descending into the depths of my stomach, warming me from the inside out after a long day at work.



2. The way the steam from my mug curls around the cold morning air in my studio on a lazy Sunday when I have nowhere to be.



3. Wandering new parts of Paris and being overcome by awe all over again.

4. Seeing couples kiss in the Tuileries.



5. When the Eiffel Tower takes me by surprise. Also watching the reflection of its sparkle in the window of the building across from mine. But then realizing that I missed out on a full view of the Eiffel Tower by about 100 meters and a 90 degree rotation of my window.




6. Dressing up despite the weather and despite having nowhere to go.

7.  Getting Starbucks vias in the mail with a Valentine's Day Snoopy card complete with two sheets of Snoopy stickers. (Thanks mum <3 )



8. Nesting. Seriously, if this whole writing thing doesn't work out, maybe I'll become an interior decorator for 14 square meter apartments. Niche?

9. Catching glimpses of the two framed photos that sit on my desk: my little cousins and my soulmate and I back in the summer. It's reassuring to know that that restaurant is still there, that our summer will roll around again.

10. Anticipating traveling. And of course traveling itself.

11. Discovering the best 8tracks. Here is the one I'm listening to as I write this: http://8tracks.com/jooos/waiting-for-spring

12. When ma petite fille and I have grand adventures to Luxembourg Gardens or to Strasbourg Saint-Denis to collect vegetables from bearded hipsters in a hidden side street.

That's all for now folks. I've moved my laptop under my window but it's all fogged up. Nevertheless, I will try to get some writing done. With the assistance of copious amounts of tea.

Love always,
Coral




Saturday 8 February 2014

Nostalgia

I love Paris.
The first day I got here I walked down the Champs-Elysees to Concorde and through the Tuileries, crossing a bridge to the left bank and strolling to Shakespeare and Company. That day will always shine like a beacon in my memory for its perfection, for the way my heart flipped over itself and for the tears of such a concentrated happiness swelling inside of me. 


And I still have moments like this, on a weekly basis, moments where I pause on a bridge or at a cafe or in the middle of an anonymous street, and I fall head over heels like I did on August 28th. Moments where I feel as if I have plunged headfirst into a Van Gogh painting. Holding the hand of my jeune fille, her little pink cartable slung over her bright red coat, looking up at me with those huge brown eyes shielded by oversized rectangular glasses, her hair shining in the rare moments of winter sunshine, I realize that I am living the dream I have dreamed of for years. 



I know you can feel a 'but' coming.
But there really isn't any but. I think I have identified why I sometimes feel so sad, so alone, so transient. It is not because I am disappointed, or tired of it all, or frustrated, or homesick. Well, sometimes I am homesick. But overall, the majority of my melancholy comes from my love. Because I know none of this is permanent. I am simply a long-term visitor. And yes, if this bothers me so much, then why don't I stay? It is because I am torn. I am torn between this idealistic life, this removed-from-reality life, this on-hold life, frolicking from cafe to cafe and from park to park, and I find myself craving the realness of home. The realness of the people I know, the places I've gown up with. And I know I'll probably be sick of it in a year's time, but right now, home is what I need. And this is my paradox. Because sometimes I really don't want to leave. 
And I feel a smothering nostalgia for the present.
Because I know these are the glory days, the ones my mind will wander to when I'm doodling in class or bored at work or in the early minutes of morning or the late hours of night. And it will all shrink back to a dream, one that will seem to have happened to somebody else.
 I know this apartment will become a sacred and distant memory, one that gathers dust in the back corners of my mind that I tell my children about.
And I will hate myself for craving home when all I will crave is to be back here. And this is the eternal struggle, because nothing will ever be real and perfect all at once. 
This probably isn't making any sense.
But I guess sometimes my mind is a minefield.
And I'm just trying to sort it out into little boxes I can identify and label.
And sometimes it even gets dark in Paris. Sometimes I am sad in Paris. Sometimes I miss home in Paris.
But it doesn't mean I love it any less.